Hair or Bare? Midlife Down There

Reclaiming our choices one wax, snip, or trim at a time Middle age is a time when you start asking philosophical questions like: Have I accomplished what I wanted to do in my life? What legacy am I leaving my cats? And most importantly: What the hell’s going on with my hair?!? Suddenly it’s growing […]

Rule of Attraction: What Really Pulls You In

Attraction is a funny thing. It can be based on personality, shared interests, hormones—but if you relied on the lens of Hollywood, you’d probably say it’s purely based on appearance. Attractiveness, especially for women, has some highly narrow parameters: smooth skin, taut body, lush hair—an amped-up version of the hallmarks of youth. What Hollywood Still […]

What Madonna’s Plastic Surgery Teaches Us About Aging (and It’s All Good)

Lately, Madonna’s plastic surgery and antics have been called sad and embarrassing. But her wild style should be cause for celebration, not condemnation. I open Instagram and see a video of a favorite singer of mine dancing in a silvery, shimmery bodysuit. It’s wildly futuristic and wonderful … until I read the comments. “Grandma, what’s […]

From Judgement to Crush? My Unexpected Admiration for Pamela Anderson

Pamela Anderson and I have two things in common: blonde hair and ample curves. But while she was running into the ocean carrying a red rescue buoy, I was designing submarines for the U.S. Navy. I was 29 when Anderson bounced down the beach as “CJ Parker” on Baywatch. Her overdrawn lips and iconic red […]