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The Things We Got Wrong About Ourselves

June 3, 2026

THIS WEEK: BOOK CLUB DRAMA · FIFTY SHADES · YOUR MONEY · COMPETENCE

THURSDAY • JUNE 4• 2026

Good morning,

A friend asked me last week who my target audience is. I answered fast: women over 50 who aren’t done. Women like me. I’m the target audience.

Right?

Then I caught myself. Because “women over 50 who aren’t done” is 40 million people, and I promise you they don’t all want the same thing. Women aren’t a monolith. Some want to be told aging is beautiful, and some want a skincare routine. A target audience is impersonal, a demographic inside an age range.

My ideal audience is something else entirely. She’s not defined by her age. She’s defined by the fact that she sees the thing and refuses to pretend she doesn’t. She isn’t afraid to make noise, emailing me to tell me what she wants more of, or showing up in our comments with her stories and very opinionated opinions. She’s signed up for PROVOKEDplus because she knows an independent magazine that pays its writers doesn’t run on pixie dust.

But here’s the part I like best. Sometimes the thing she has to see is her own blind spot. One of our writers spent 15 years rolling her eyes at Fifty Shades of Grey, until she got over herself (with a nudge from her therapist). She read it and still thinks it’s clumsy, but she also figured out why it gave 150 million women permission.

That’s the ideal audience. Not the woman who’s always right—the woman sharp enough to call out the bullsh*t, big enough to admit when it’s hers.

I’m so grateful you’re here.

HUMOR | Book Club Drama Episode 3

Book Club Drama is PROVOKED’s monthly comedy series by Emmy-winning writer Judy Rothman Rofé. Six episodes in season one. Eight women, one book a month, a group chat that goes completely off the rails. Quick reads. It’s fiction, and it builds to a finale. New here? Start with Episode One.

Book Club Drama: Bread of Angels

BY JUDY ROTHMAN ROFÉ

One book was assigned. Four Patti Smith memoirs got read. One husband made a promise he couldn’t keep. A faucet debate outlasted the literary discussion. And somewhere between the gut reset lentil soup and the brushed nickel, things went sideways in a way nobody saw coming. Episode three of six.

CULTURE

My Therapist Convinced Me to Read Fifty Shades of Grey. Fifteen Years Late.

BY MARIAH DOUGLAS

We were taught that good girls don’t seek out sex, express desire, or insist on pleasure. Then a badly written book that started as Twilight fan fiction sold 150 million copies and gave women permission they didn’t know they were waiting for. What that says about the book is less interesting than what it says about us. READ MORE

Susan’s Big Idea letters are the highlight of my Sunday mornings. I’d never even heard the term ‘Falsenice,’ and now I see it everywhere. Same with the Irish Exit. That’s what I love about this membership—it makes you sharper, more curious, and more interesting. —Pat, PROVOKEDplus member

Pat’s talking about Good Enough—the Sunday newsletter that opens every week with a Big Idea, the one that gives you a new way to see something you thought you already understood. PROVOKEDplus is also where our book club launches in July, along with live events.

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MONEY

What Does a Feminist Investment Portfolio Actually Look Like?

BY KRISTIN HULL, Ph.D.

“Feminist investing” has been co-opted so thoroughly that skepticism is warranted. You know the signs. The pink logo. The script font. The “women-led” label slapped on a company just because the CEO happens to be female. Part two breaks down what authentic gender-lens investing actually is and isn’t, and how to tell the difference before you invest a dollar. READ MORE

TAKE NOTE

Timely and worth your attention.

💊 Breaking news: A study of 110,000 women presented at this year’s ASCO meeting found that those taking GLP-1 drugs were up to 35% less likely to develop breast cancer. The catch: It’s retrospective, so it shows a correlation, not proof, and the researchers are openly calling for a large prospective trial before anyone claims these drugs prevent cancer. The drug everyone has an opinion about may end up mattering for a reason no one was arguing over. Worth watching, and worth a conversation with your doctor.

🎬 Who remembers Cape Fear with De Niro and Nick Nolte? Javier Bardem now takes the Max Cady role in Apple TV’s new 10-episode limited series, produced by Martin Scorsese, who directed the 1991 film, and Steven Spielberg. Married attorneys Anna (Amy Adams) and Tom Bowden (Patrick Wilson) once helped put a killer away, and when he’s released seeking vengeance, that decision comes back to haunt them. Here’s the shift: Anna isn’t just the woman in peril. She carries equal weight, reckoning with her own role in the catastrophe. Premieres June 5 with two episodes, then weekly through July 31.

🐑 A talking-sheep murder mystery from the director of Minions and the writer of Chernobyl, with Hugh Jackman and a flock voiced by Julia Louis-Dreyfus and Patrick Stewart: The Sheep Detectives. Yes, really. And it’s apparently wonderful. Maybe talking sheep are the perfect kind of ridiculousness we all need right now—the kind of thing you take the grandkids to and end up being the one who tears up.

LIFE

I Did the Work. Now I’m Supposed to Do My Face.

BY CHANTRISE SIMS HOLLIMAN

You earned the degrees, logged the decades, survived the reorgs. Then somewhere between the Ozempic ads and the Botox loyalty programs, the job quietly added one requirement nobody will say out loud: Be hot. A funny, furious essay about the moment competence stopped being enough. READ MORE

READER SPOTLIGHT

“This article came to me at the perfect time. I lost my sister a year ago. She was my best friend, my co-conspirator, and the witness to my life. She kept my memories better than I ever did, and I miss her so much that I have been stuck in my grief. I am going to commit myself to a life review and see how I feel and where it takes me. Thank you for this article, and thank you for this wonderful magazine!” —Sandy on The Life Review You Didn’t Know You Needed

Want to be featured next? Comment on your favorite piece—we read them all.

YOUR TURN

🧓 Calling all Myrtles. The average Myrtle is 84.3 years old and she’s part of a list of the 12 oldest names in America. The list of the oldest women’s names:

Myrtle, Nannie, Gertrude, Flossie, Beulah, Mildred, Eula, Ethel, Bette, or Blanche

Is your name on the list? If it is, I want to hear from you!

Three quick questions, and I’ll post your answers next week.

See the full data. It’s pretty cool.

Related: What’s in a Name? Old Bag, Hag, Crone—No Thank You

OUR SHORT LIST

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🤝 Friendship conflicts aren’t always other people. The 11 habits that mean it might be you.

👙 The bathing suit that solves every problem at once: zips up the front, full coverage including shoulders (hello, sun), flatters everywhere, and is somehow still sexy. I bought it. I love it. The search is over.

💸 That food label probably doesn’t mean what you think it means, and the confusion could cost you $700 a year.

🦪 Linen napkins, scalloped hem, hand-embroidered with an oyster shell. The kind of old-school thing that makes a summer table. I bought 12.

💊 A new heart study is raising flags about a medication that millions of women take every day.

MORE

The System Wasn’t Built for You

Research Isn’t Neutral. It’s Sexist.

BY DR. ROBIN BUCKLEY

The Medical Bill Trap No One Warns You About

BY JOANNE HELPERIN

The Men Building AI Don’t Understand Women—and That’s Our Problem

BY SUSAN DABBAR

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Editor-In-Chief, Founder Susan has spent decades pivoting from one extraordinary career to the next, proving that reinvention isn’t just possible; it’s necessary. From designing nuclear submarines as a naval architect to shaping brand strategy as a Disney executive and Nestlé brand manager, from competing as a professional poker player to founding an international educational consulting business, her career has been anything but conventional. The throughline becomes clear: Susan thrives where curiosity meets challenge. Now, as the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of PROVOKEDmagazine, she’s once again reinventing herself, channeling that same energy into a media platform that unapologetically questions, disrupts, and redefines the conversation for women. This isn’t just about aging—it’s about autonomy, ambition, and agency. When she’s not stirring the pot asking big questions, she’s being kept in check by her two millennial children, who refuse to let her act her age, and her cheeky Frenchie, Pippin, who clearly runs the show. Much of her tech support comes from her husband of over 40 years, a fellow nerd who thinks date night includes a deep dive into Google analytics. A lifelong traveler with more moves than she can count, Susan is pretty sure she holds an unofficial world record in relocating. You can follow Susan on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn.

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