Middle-aged Women: Myths, Truth, and the Eye Roll You Deserve
Ten Myths Busted and No Patience Left Welcome to middle age! You’ve magically morphed into an invisible creature ready to spontaneously combust from hot flashes and the internal rage you feel when trying to figure out your new iPhone. You hate sex, fashion, and anything fun and you’re more than a little bitter about it. […]
Good Lingerie Is a Love Letter to You and Your Body
Lingerie isn’t about seduction anymore—it’s about owning beauty and pleasure on your own terms. Whether you know it or not, your underwear speaks volumes about your self-image. Hear me out: Your drawer probably holds a bunch of everyday items—the workhorse cotton briefs or the bra that keeps it all in place, but looks like a […]
Rewatching The Wizard of Oz as a Grown-Ass Woman
I had the power all along. But also? I’m tired. Some women find spiritual awakening in yoga. I find emotional clarity watching a teenage girl commit involuntary manslaughter via house and then politely apologize for the inconvenience. I’m talking, of course, about The Wizard of Oz. I’ve watched it so many times I could serve […]
What I Want My Daughter to Know About ‘Having It All’
A boomer who tried; a millennial who calls out the lie. “’Having it all’ is a lie,” my daughter told me, eight months pregnant and still working at her desk. She’s a banker. I’m a boomer. We had the conversation my generation was too polite to have. The women in her orbit—banking, tech, consulting—recite the […]
First, Second, Third Wave, Now: Feminism in the Age of AI
To survive the algorithmic age, women must wield every lesson from feminism’s past waves and refuse erasure. When our grandmothers marched for the vote in the early 20th century, they weren’t simply demanding a ballot. They were demanding to be seen in a system designed to erase them. That fight, like every feminist wave since, […]
Hold the Next Act—I’m Taking an Intermission
Forget the reinvention memoirs and mountaintop goat yoga for now. Sometimes midlife isn’t about a comeback, it’s about catching your breath. I’ve recently been informed—mostly by targeted ads, glossy articles featuring women doing goat yoga on a mountaintop, and lifestyle “gurus”—that I’m supposed to be entering my “Second Act.” You know what I’m talking about. […]
My Own Bedroom Was Just the Start: Selfhood and Autonomy Inside Marriage
At 2:00 a.m. on a Tuesday, I realized the real problem wasn’t my husband’s snoring—it was me disappearing. I reached over, poked him in the arm, and asked him to turn over. Yet again. Thirty seconds later, I grabbed my pillows, walked upstairs to the guest room, and—for the first time in 26 years—chose myself. […]
Patriarchy Chicken and Other Acts of Everyday Resistance
A few weeks ago, I wrote about why feminism doesn’t retire when we hit midlife. But manifestos are just words. From leather and napkins to pizza and sidewalks—this is your tactical guide to everyday rebellion. Because fighting sexism doesn’t always require a megaphone. Sometimes it just takes a death stare and refusal to move aside […]
Would These Famous Men Even Matter if They Were Women?
From Steve Jobs to Barack Obama, we’re flipping the script on changemakers—and the results are … well, predictable. Imagine a world where some of the most famous men in history were women. Sounds great, right? Of course, until you realize that if they were women, they would likely have to overcome more hurdles than an […]
Feminist Midlife Manifesto
Because the patriarchy doesn’t retire—and neither do we. If feminism is a superpower, my origin story started with a toilet. I had just bought my first house. When getting some work done in my bathroom, the plumber asked me if he should call later and explain the details to my husband when he got home. […]
The Men Building AI Don’t Understand Women—and That’s Our Problem
While we’re told we “don’t get” technology, men are programming our future. I’m tired of the “women don’t understand technology” bullshit. You know the trope: the clueless woman in a sitcom clicking random buttons while a smirking man swoops in to fix it. It’s tired, patronizing—and it’s everywhere. While we’re dismissed as too confused to […]
How Ms. Magazine Started a Revolution—and Why It’s Far From Over
The directors of the new HBO documentary Dear Ms.: A Revolution in Print talk about the magazine’s storied history and why its “consciousness-raising” is needed now—more than ever. “Try to imagine a life where you are owned by or controlled by the men in your life.” This opening line of the documentary Dear Ms. pulls […]
