When the Refuge Becomes the Storm: How Intimate Partner Violence Affects Us Decades Later
⚠️ Content Warning: This essay discusses intimate partner violence, emotional abuse, and trauma, including suicidal ideation. Please take care while reading. He’d kick me in the leg if I said or did something he didn’t like, just a little “put-me-in-my-place” whack, I suppose. That’s how it started. I was a college student, dating my now […]
Why So Many Women Over 50 Are Skipping the Ring—and Thriving
Charlotte said it best back in Season 3 of Sex and the City while brunching with the girls—“I’ve been dating since I was 15. I’m exhausted. Where is he?” Same, girl. Same. That line might be older than your favorite Starbucks barista, but it still hits hard … does he even exist? Society has had […]
The Joy of Sexting: How to Do It at 50+ (and Why It’s Worth It)
At a recent girls’ night, I was stunned when a friend told me she had never sexted. This is a woman who exudes sexuality, flirts with ease, and is more than a decade younger than me. Her generation invented sexting. Never? She shrugged it off, but I insisted that she is missing out on one […]
May-December Relationships: Sex, Money, and Judgment
May-December relationships are trending, but let’s be honest—they never really went away. They come with heat and headlines. But behind the sexy story is a mix of real-world intrigue: Sex, money, and what everyone else thinks. Judgmental kids. Unsolicited advice from “friends.” Awkward stares. Clashing timelines. We talked to couples who’ve made it work—and the […]
Online Dating Over 50? Aim Smarter With These 7 Moves
If you’re on the dating apps or think you should be, here’s what you need to know about online dating after 50: True stories and expert advice, plus the surprising new move for finding your match. Insights From an Insider: What’s Really Going on With Apps for Online Dating After 50 Almost 20 years ago, I […]
Pretty Woman at 35: Unpacking the Myth of the Girlfriend Experience
The last line of Pretty Woman is that “Some dreams come true, some don’t; but keep on dreamin’.” It’s quintessentially Hollywood, the place where dreams are made and sold. The girlfriend experience (GFE), a niche brand of sex work, is a fantasy, and the Hollywood version is the fantasy of that. It’s a reflection of […]
Booty Call: Are Granny Panties Finally Getting the Respect They Deserve?
Let’s Talk Underwear Specifically, those high-waisted, full-coverage, booty-hugging essentials known as “granny panties.” As a 64-year-old curvy woman celebrating my post-menopausal reign, all I want is something that is going to cover my ass. Is that too much to ask? The hyper-sexualization of women’s underwear has turned what should be a personal choice into a […]
