It’s Not Them. It’s You. Why You’re Failing at Online Dating.
Here’s what dating coach Andrea McGinty tells women over 50 who complain about online dating: The problem isn’t the apps, the sites, or the men. It’s you. “People aren’t taking responsibility,” the author of 2nd Acts: The World’s Leading Online Dating Expert Shares 166 Practical No-Nonsense, Step-by-Step Approaches to Romance, said bluntly. “You don’t know […]
Why We Should Stop Treating Regret Like a Dirty Word
Image: Anna Godeassi[/caption] If You Have No Regrets, Maybe You Haven’t Been Paying Attention When someone tells me they have no regrets, I can’t help it. I see a person as bottled up as carbonated water, one twist cap away from exploding. Come on. Everyone has regrets—at least occasionally. The trouble is, telling someone you […]
Dying on Hold: Why Concierge Medicine Looks Like Survival Now
Concierge care may sound like luxury, but for women over 50, it’s starting to look like the only way to be heard. I wanted to throw my phone across the room. I’d been trying to schedule a visit with a new physician for weeks. Every doctor I called was either booked eight months out or […]
The Wet Truth: I Tried 13 Lubes and These Were the Best
Menopause may dry you up, but it doesn’t have to dry you out. I tested 13 different lubes to find what actually delivers more pleasure and the best orgasms. It happened gradually, but surely, and all the hydration and electrolytes in the world didn’t help. The tap on my personal slip ‘n slide had been […]
The Life Review You Didn’t Know You Needed
What a Life Review Can Teach Us About Forgiveness, Legacy—and Moving Forward A couple of years ago, I was watching the documentary Jane Fonda in Five Acts when she mentioned something that stuck with me like a seed waiting for the right season: She had done a “life review” before turning 60—an intentional process of […]
Confessions of a Dietitian Who Feared Carbs
I spent years avoiding bread and pasta—now, I’m done with the carb guilt. Carbohydrates: the nutritional villain of an entire generation and, for a while, my personal nemesis. For far too long, I lived in fear of bagels, avoided potatoes like they owed me money, and treated pasta as though it were illegal contraband. But […]
Don’t Die of Modesty: Get Undressed. Get Checked.
Skin cancer doesn’t care if you’re embarrassed. One woman’s story of speaking up. After another round of icing my face with a bag of frozen peas, I popped some more Tylenol. It felt like I’d been hit with a baseball bat. The next day, peeling back the compression bandage, I assessed the damage. My nose […]
Hair or Bare? Midlife Down There
Reclaiming our choices one wax, snip, or trim at a time Middle age is a time when you start asking philosophical questions like: Have I accomplished what I wanted to do in my life? What legacy am I leaving my cats? And most importantly: What the hell’s going on with my hair?!? Suddenly it’s growing […]
The Menopause Revolution: What Orca Matriarchs Reveal About Women Over 50
The Unapologetic Power of Post-Reproductive Life About five years ago, I walked out of the bathroom at a party with a piece of tampon wrapper stuck to my shoe. A friend, 15 years younger, giggled and pointed, expecting me to be mortified. But in my late 40s at the time, older than many in my […]
You’re Not Too Emotional. You’re Just Emotionally Untrained
For years, when someone told me to “calm down,” I’d shrink like a scolded child. Later, in my 40s, I’d go ballistic instead. Especially if the remark came from a man who’d never been called “hysterical” in his life. Turns out both these reactions missed the mark—what I needed was to get emotionally fit. For […]
Books That Tingle
Your Feral Girl Summer Reading List: No Shame, Just Heat in Book Recommendations for Women The nights are steamier, the outfits clingier, and your people-pleasing tendencies are packed away with the fleece. Welcome to Feral Girl Summer. This is your permission to read for you—loud, messy, sexy, wild, and unhinged. These books tingle in all […]
You Call It Smut, I Call It Self-Care: The Real Power of a Sexy Beach Read
Because turning pages that turn you on is more than indulgent—it’s liberating. I was celebrating the start of summer poolside in Key West when I hit the good part of my beach book. You know the part I mean—the hot scene that gets the heroine going and then works its magic on you as well. […]
