THIS WEEK: FOMO · ENVY · ERASURE

THURSDAY • JUNE 18 • 2026

Good morning,

I’ve been sitting with the word invisible lately. We say it a lot around here—that we don’t want to be erased. It’s practically why PROVOKED exists.

But there have been times I’ve wanted to be invisible.

In my 20s and 30s, walking through the streets of New York, I’d have done almost anything not to be seen. The catcalls. The comments. And today? How many of us angle for the back of the group photo? Fade into the wallpaper at the wedding because we’re not sure about the dress, the arms, the face that doesn’t quite match the one in our head?

So maybe it isn’t invisibility we’re afraid of.

What gets me has nothing to do with my body. It’s something deeper.

The fear isn’t that someone looks at my wrinkles. It’s that they look at my wrinkles and decide there’s no point starting a conversation that requires any intellectual muscle. That I’ve aged out of relevance, and that my opinions, experience, and voice matter less than they used to.

This week’s stories circle that idea from different directions. A mother who dissolved in a darkened room in 1964. Friends becoming visibly smaller. And one of the oldest fears of all—everyone got invited except me.

My advice for this week: Stand wherever you want in the photo, and say the thing at the table. That’s the part I’m not willing to lose, and I don’t think you are either.

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MONEY

​An IPO for the Future: FOMO or JOMO?​

BY SUSAN DABBAR

There’s an IPO happening, and the headlines telling us to hurry were written by the people selling the shares. Meanwhile, a piece of that same company may already be sitting in our 401(k)s without anyone asking us. The difference between FOMO and JOMO may not be as huge as you think. And we’re old enough to know which one to trust.

CULTURE

​GLP-1 Envy. Let’s Talk. ​

BY BONNIE TAUB-DIX

Half your friend group is suddenly, quietly smaller—and nobody’s saying the word out loud. A dietitian’s take on GLP-1 envy: the feeling that creeps in when the friends you used to struggle alongside found a shortcut you didn’t—and what it’s doing to female relationships. READ MORE​

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Margie, one of our writers, thought she needed to fix her rescue dog Rex—78 pounds of opinion, pulling on every walk, barking at birds only he could see. She did the group classes. They didn’t stick. So she ordered the Embark Breed + Health DNA Test, hoping for an instruction manual.

What she got was the whole dog: confirmation he’s an Aussiedoodle, a mix of Australian Shepherd and Poodle, bred for intelligence and constant motion—plus a full health panel that told her exactly what to watch for as he ages. The behavior she’d been fighting finally had context. He was a working dog without a job to do.

Embark is one of the most accurate dog DNA tests available, developed by canine geneticists in partnership with veterinarians and researchers at Cornell University’s College of Veterinary Medicine. One simple cheek swab screens your dog’s DNA against 350+ breeds and more than 250 genetic health risks, flagging potential issues early and giving you a clearer picture of the dog you’re actually living with—so you can stop correcting them and start working with who they are.

Margie came looking for better understanding and control. What she found was her dog. Read her story here.​

Know your dog inside and out.

READER SPOTLIGHT

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LIFE

​How to Dissolve a Woman​

BY JUDITH HANNAN

Her mother got a nose job to look more like June Cleaver, put dinner on the table at 6:15, and faded away so gradually that nobody noticed. A daughter on what it takes to finally see a mother clearly, and what it means to understand her rage only after she’s gone. READ MORE​

TAKE NOTE

Timely and worth your attention.

🌡️ MIT engineers just built an ingestible temperature sensor the size of a blueberry—accurate to a hundredth of a degree, sending readings every second from inside your gut. It could track infection, monitor patients under anesthesia, and even read ovulation for fertility. We’ve spent decades charting our own bodies with drugstore thermometers and guesswork. The future of knowing yourself, it seems, is something you swallow.

🎬 Margaret Hamilton’s Wicked Witch hat goes up for auction next month, with bidding opening at $100,000—right beside Luke’s lightsaber ($1 million) and John Lennon’s handwritten lyrics ($500K). The artifacts of our childhoods are now seven-figure assets. And if you’ve ever suspected the Witch was the most interesting woman in Oz, we published an opinion on that too.

📺 Geena Davis (70), Alfre Woodard, and Alfred Molina lead a new Netflix sci-fi, The Boroughs, set in a too-perfect retirement community, where the unlikely heroes have to stop an otherworldly force from stealing the one thing they’re short on—time. Three actors Hollywood was supposed to be done with, headlining a show about refusing to let it run out. All eight episodes are live, so buckle up for the weekend.

DEAR READER

​What I Lost When I Lost the Soup Report​

BY MICHELE SHAPIRO

Between the career shifts, the grown kids, and the friends who drift or disappear, our inner circles thin so gradually we don’t notice until the silence is hard to ignore. It isn’t loneliness exactly. It’s something quieter and harder to name. What one woman found when she finally went looking. READ MORE​

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Whether your dog’s a mystery mutt or a purebred with secrets, Embark gives you the fuller picture: where they came from, what they need, and how to keep them healthy for the long haul. Get Started Here ​

OUR SHORT LIST

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📚 Remember staying up too late reading The Help? Kathryn Stockett has finally returned with a new novel—The Calamity Club.​

🍮 Nancy Silverton won the very first James Beard pastry award in 1991—and just took home another award, 35 years later.

🧠 We document everything now: photos, notes, voice memos. The science on what that does to our brains.

👖 Wide-leg, high-rise, ’70s-cut, and soft enough that you forget you’re wearing real blue jeans—my choice is the dark midnight for nights out. The search is over.

📺 Kristen Bell and Adam Brody’s sleeper-hit romance is getting a third season. Catch up on Nobody Wants This before Sarah Silverman joins the cast this fall.

MORE

Aging, Reframed

​Stop Telling Me 50 Is the New 30. 50 Isn’t the New Anything. ​

BY CHRISTINA DAVES

​The Rise of the IDGAF Woman: Why Midlife Is the New Rebellion ​

BY JANET SIROTO

​Aging Backward, Moving Forward: The Benjamin Button Approach to Self-Acceptance​

BY MELISSA T. SHULTZ